"What spirit is so empty and blind, that it cannot recognize the fact
that the foot is more noble than the shoe, and skin more beautiful
that the garment with which it is clothed?"-
Michaelangelo
I Would Like to be a Nudist BUT...
I AM OVERWEIGHT, CAN I STILL GO
NUDE?
Does it matter? Let's be honest in
western countries most people are overweight. What you look like to
other naturists is of little interest to them. The fact that you may
have scars or limbs missing is accepted. A fellow naturist will look
you in the eyes rather than stare at your body. This you will quickly
realise.
MY PARTNER DOES
NOT SHARE MY ENTHUSIASM
This will always be an initial
problem. You are proposing a radical change in your lifestyle. Your
partner may never have thought of becoming a nudist and your
suggestion to do so would startle him/her.
He/she may have heard all sorts of
rumours and misconceptions about what happens at clubs or on the
beaches. It could be that he/she may have had a puritanical
upbringing.
Whatever the causes of the lack of
enthusiasm extreme care is necessary in supporting your case. From the
outset it is important that sincerity, honesty, and respect of your
partner's feelings remain the basis of your case.
According to a survey conducted by
The Naturist Society, it is usually the male partner who suggests
giving naturism a try.
It has been noted however that, once
they actually experience social nudity, women become very enthusiastic
club members. They quickly realise that the naturist environment is
safe to both themselves and, more importantly, the children, and enjoy
their new freedom, the friendliness of other nudists.
I MAY SHOW MY
EMBARRASSMENT
Men are afraid that they will have an
erection in the presence of female company. Women have concerns about
menstruation, erect nipples and flushed cheeks.
These are valid and understandable
concerns to each individual. They are also over rated. It is in fact
unlikely that this will happen. A naturist environment is not a sexual
one in spite of the nudity and mixing of genders. I have been a club
nudist for many years. During that time I have never seen anything
that would cause embarrassment to the individual or others.
Should a man feel roused he can cover
his modesty by laying on his stomach, taking a shower or swim, or
covering himself with a towel.
If it is 'that time of the month' for
a woman, there is no requirement to strip off completely. Clubs have
toilets in which steps can be taken to rectify one's appearance.
WE HAVE A YOUNG
FAMILY
Fantastic !! How often do you see
your own children running about the house or sharing the bath?. Are
they concerned about their nudity there?
Young children thrive in the naturist
environment. It stirs the heart to see children enjoying themselves in
club play area, or in the pool with mum (or dad). Kids mix naturally
with other children and, whether at a club or on a beach, will enjoy
just being themselves. Nudity does not worry them.
Just as importantly children are safe
in a naturist environment. We are all very conscious of the harm that
unsupervised children can experience and are constantly vigilant.
DO NOT KNOW HOW
TO GO ABOUT DOING SO
This is easy. Take off your clothes
and relax in the privacy of your own home. Feel the freedom of being
natural, enjoy each other's company, and discuss social nudity between
yourselves.
Various countries have their own
National Naturist Councils. They are there to help you. Write to or
telephone one and ask for an `Information Pack' to be sent to you.
Information Packs are tastefully
printed and will give you all the information that will enable you to
start learning about the naturist lifestyle. They will answer the
questions that have inevitably arisen either in your own mind or
whilst discussing the matter
Short Reading About Nudist Culture
Ten Tips for First Timers
1. For your first time, go to a naturist resort (ie: one which is set in wide, open natural surroundings) - possibly a campsite with caravan and cabin stay. The great thing about these is that they are relaxed, with plenty of privacy when required, and they generally have a central area with spas and seating where you can relax, socialise, and be among like-minded people. Spend a bit of money and go somewhere nice. This trip will set the tone of all your future nudist endeavours. You only have your first time once, so make it good!
2. Go somewhere at least a few hours drive from where you live. There are two reasons for this. (1) It lessens the chance of your seeing anyone you know - it's much easier to strip for the first time with only strangers around (trust me - any nudist will agree). Also, (2) it lets you feel that you are away from all the daily stresses and conventions of life. This should be a vacation, and a vacation is much more fun when you actually vacate your usual haunts. Also, you'll be more inclined to follow through if you make the whole experience into an adventure.
3. This one's for the nervous men out there. Guys, I know what you're thinking, and it involves the behaviour (or lack thereof) of your pee-pee. Let me reassure you…you will not spend your entire visit to a nudist/naturist resort with an erection. Believe me, you are no more likely to be erect after you've disrobed than you are walking around in your suit-and-tie. Granted, you may very occasionally become semi-erect (or even fully erect), but no more so (and probably less) than you would in fully clothed circumstances. So stop worrying about it. It simply will not be a problem. Any nudist will back me up on this one.
4. Take a "security blanket". Your "security blanket" is something non-obtrusive which you can discretely use to cover your genitals. You won't actually use it, but it'll make you feel a bit better during your first five minutes of nakedness. For my first time, I took a guitar, which I could kneel down over and play (thereby covering some key areas of my body) if required. Some other forms of a "security blanket"' could be a towel (not worn, but carried), a big satchel, a large cooler box, a deck chair, or a picnic blanket. I'm sure you can think of something.
5. Flirting/being flirted with can be uncomfortable or intimidating even when clothed. When you're naked, it can be even worse. As any experienced nudist will tell you, nudism has nothing to do with sex, and flirting with strangers is frowned upon. Feel free to be affectionate with your established partner, but please respect others' desire to be comfortable. If someone is flirting with you and you are feeling uncomfortable, do something about it, which makes it clear that his/her attentions are not welcome. If you feel like you are being harassed let the owners or staff know, and they will deal with the problem. This said, neither my partner nor I have ever encountered this. Apparently, it is more likely to happen on nudist beaches (which are free-to-access by all kinds of people, including gawkers - clothed individuals who like looking at nude people). That's why we only go to places which are somewhat out of the way (in terms of location), and where you have to pay to stay.
6. Pack at least two items of clothing: a comfy, button-up long-sleeved shirt (casual flannel is fine) and a pair of slops (or thongs, as they are sometimes called). I also usually take a jersey and a pair of sunglasses.
7. Two words: sun cream!
8. Two more words: insect repellent.
9. And two more. Bring book. Um, ok, maybe the concept needs a few more words to be fully articulated, so here goes. You are probably going to spend a fair amount of time sitting in the sun and reading. To do this, you will probably need reading material. I usually bring several books and magazines, but I am something of a readaholic.
10. Don't try to loose 3kg off your buttocks/wax your pubic region into a perfect "v"/madly exfoliate your buttocks just because you will be going naked in front of strangers. Believe it or not, nobody will care how you look (except for commenting on that interesting piercing), and you will find that body shape, size or texture will cease being important in your interaction with others. I'm sure a psychologist could explain this phenomonon, but I'm not a psychologist. All I know is that this is very true - being naked makes all of these issues…unimportant. You'll see.
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