Justin Timberlake wants to strip off on a nudist beach after spotting
one in France. He said, "I was born naked and I’m going to die naked
so I don’t see anything wrong with it."
AS A WOMAN THOUGH, IF I'M HAVING MY
PERIOD, PRESUMABLY I CAN'T GO NAKED.
Not true. It depends largely on how
comfortable you feel. Naturists understand that menstruation is a
perfectly natural part of life for all women, and you won't be singled
out for special notice! The use of tampons enables women to take part
in most naturist activities. If you prefer to use pads instead, or if
you would just feel more comfortable doing so, wearing shorts is
perfectly acceptable during your period.
IF GOD HAD
WANTED US ALL TO BE NAKED, HE WOULDN'T HAVE INVENTED CALVIN KLEIN.
Guys, have you ever been to a tailor
to be fitted for trousers and been asked what side you 'dress' on? Why
do they do this? Simply because most men know that if you get this
wrong, it can be somewhat uncomfortable! Any woman who's ever worn a
bra will know that lifting and separating might give a pleasing
outline through a sweater, but that the instructions might just as
well say pinch and strangulate. Clothes often force your body into
shapes and positions that don't feel natural. How many men truly enjoy
wearing a collar and tie? How many women have pulled on a girdle
because they really wanted to? Next time you've dressed yourself up to
the nines, take a look in the mirror when you've taken it all off.
Have a look at the crease marks around your waist from the belt that
was too tight, or the deep gouges in your shoulders from your
wonderbra, or the ribs around your shins from socks, and the redness
of your little toes that have been squashed into fashion shoes.
Nudity is the most natural thing in
the world. Despite the fact that the catwalks of the fashion capitals
would have us believe that we cannot do without their latest
creations, we are all born naked! There are those, of course, who
would no doubt prefer all baby boys to emerge pre-clad in a
three-piece worsted business suit, and baby girls to pop out wearing
pinafore dresses and woollen tights. We live in a society that has
grown to view the human body as something to be covered - even ashamed
of. Naturism takes the opposite view. It sees the human body as good,
normal, varied - and something that only needs covering if the owner
wants to cover it. There is nothing lewd, crude or distasteful about
the unclothed body.
This will be
our first experience and we're apprehensive! What should we expect?
No matter how long experienced people
have been doing this, (and for some of us, it has been many years), we
all had a first time. The fact that you're apprehensive tells us that
you're just like the rest of us.
We remember how uncomfortable it was
to think about, before actually experiencing clothes-free recreation.
We know that it takes courage and trust to try nudism.
"You gain strength, courage and
confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear
in the face... You must do the thing which you think you cannot do." —
You Learn by Living, 1960, by Eleanor Roosevelt Yes, it takes trust.
Going without clothes among others allows us to bare everything but
our souls. That takes trust in the people who are helping us get
started.
Women who are experienced nudists
remember worrying that people might stare, or ogle, or compare, or
come on to them. Some were afraid it would be a beauty contest and
they'd be the only one without a "perfect" body (they're relieved to
learn that we're really all pretty much the same).
Men remember being afraid that they'd
get an erection. Once in a while, no matter how much we assure people
that it's not a sexual experience, there's a man who thinks that HE
has so much more testosterone than everyone else, it'll be sexual for
him.
What all of us have learned, is that
the first ten or fifteen minutes, we are so intimidated that our
equipment doesn't work the way we thought it would . . . and most
experienced nudists of both sexes will say that the next thing that
happens, is that you'll FORGET you're naked! Hard to believe, isn't
it? I repeat, almost ALL of us found it to be true, and you probably
will too.
© Charles Myers. Used with
permission. One of our members tells about his first visit to a
"landed" nudist park. He fell asleep on his blanket, on the grass
between the tennis courts and the swimming pool. Upon awakening, he
lay with his eyes closed, feeling the warm sunshine and the gentle
breeze, listening to the sounds around him, the tennis balls volleying
on one side, and the splashes, conversation and squeals from kids down
around the pool.
He thought, "My God, I really am
lying here naked". Then he opened his eyes and looked around a little,
and thought, "And so is everybody else." Then, "And nobody seems to
notice." And then, "AND IT REALLY DOESN'T MATTER!"
You'll quickly come to the
realization that nobody who has been doing this for a while pays
attention to you. Unless you're dressed, of course, then you'd stick
out like a sore thumb. As you might imagine, a person who is clothed
differently from the rest of us is the one who feels most
uncomfortable.
We also know from experience that the
easiest way to ease into this is to get your clothes off as quickly as
you can, as if you've been doing it all your life. It is far easier to
jump right in, than to drag out the process. It's like jumping into a
pool of water. Just do it, and get it over with. Very soon, you'll
start to realize that "This isn't so bad, in fact they were right, it
feels pretty darn good!"
Bare Buns has a free orientation,
presented at the beginning of our Rec Center parties, for people who
are attending for their first time. It's packed with information,
sensitively presented, and with a touch of humor to help you relax. It
is designed to help make your first-time nudist experience as
comfortable as we can possibly make it. In addition, we host a "Meet &
Greet" before each Rec Center party at a nearby restaurant.
Many people like being able to meet a
small group of our members over a bite to eat, in a neutral, clothed
environment. Then when they arrive at the Rec Center, they feel like
they at least know a few of the people there. Participation in the
Meet & Greet is optional.
Short Reading About Nudist Culture
Ten Tips for First Timers
1. For your first time, go to a naturist resort (ie: one which is set in wide, open natural surroundings) - possibly a campsite with caravan and cabin stay. The great thing about these is that they are relaxed, with plenty of privacy when required, and they generally have a central area with spas and seating where you can relax, socialise, and be among like-minded people. Spend a bit of money and go somewhere nice. This trip will set the tone of all your future nudist endeavours. You only have your first time once, so make it good!
2. Go somewhere at least a few hours drive from where you live. There are two reasons for this. (1) It lessens the chance of your seeing anyone you know - it's much easier to strip for the first time with only strangers around (trust me - any nudist will agree). Also, (2) it lets you feel that you are away from all the daily stresses and conventions of life. This should be a vacation, and a vacation is much more fun when you actually vacate your usual haunts. Also, you'll be more inclined to follow through if you make the whole experience into an adventure.
3. This one's for the nervous men out there. Guys, I know what you're thinking, and it involves the behaviour (or lack thereof) of your pee-pee. Let me reassure you…you will not spend your entire visit to a nudist/naturist resort with an erection. Believe me, you are no more likely to be erect after you've disrobed than you are walking around in your suit-and-tie. Granted, you may very occasionally become semi-erect (or even fully erect), but no more so (and probably less) than you would in fully clothed circumstances. So stop worrying about it. It simply will not be a problem. Any nudist will back me up on this one.
4. Take a "security blanket". Your "security blanket" is something non-obtrusive which you can discretely use to cover your genitals. You won't actually use it, but it'll make you feel a bit better during your first five minutes of nakedness. For my first time, I took a guitar, which I could kneel down over and play (thereby covering some key areas of my body) if required. Some other forms of a "security blanket"' could be a towel (not worn, but carried), a big satchel, a large cooler box, a deck chair, or a picnic blanket. I'm sure you can think of something.
5. Flirting/being flirted with can be uncomfortable or intimidating even when clothed. When you're naked, it can be even worse. As any experienced nudist will tell you, nudism has nothing to do with sex, and flirting with strangers is frowned upon. Feel free to be affectionate with your established partner, but please respect others' desire to be comfortable. If someone is flirting with you and you are feeling uncomfortable, do something about it, which makes it clear that his/her attentions are not welcome. If you feel like you are being harassed let the owners or staff know, and they will deal with the problem. This said, neither my partner nor I have ever encountered this. Apparently, it is more likely to happen on nudist beaches (which are free-to-access by all kinds of people, including gawkers - clothed individuals who like looking at nude people). That's why we only go to places which are somewhat out of the way (in terms of location), and where you have to pay to stay.
6. Pack at least two items of clothing: a comfy, button-up long-sleeved shirt (casual flannel is fine) and a pair of slops (or thongs, as they are sometimes called). I also usually take a jersey and a pair of sunglasses.
7. Two words: sun cream!
8. Two more words: insect repellent.
9. And two more. Bring book. Um, ok, maybe the concept needs a few more words to be fully articulated, so here goes. You are probably going to spend a fair amount of time sitting in the sun and reading. To do this, you will probably need reading material. I usually bring several books and magazines, but I am something of a readaholic.
10. Don't try to loose 3kg off your buttocks/wax your pubic region into a perfect "v"/madly exfoliate your buttocks just because you will be going naked in front of strangers. Believe it or not, nobody will care how you look (except for commenting on that interesting piercing), and you will find that body shape, size or texture will cease being important in your interaction with others. I'm sure a psychologist could explain this phenomonon, but I'm not a psychologist. All I know is that this is very true - being naked makes all of these issues…unimportant. You'll see.
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